Are dildos the only thing we have in common?
Lesbian nights are hard to find and are usually in a small basement.
If your local lesbian bar hasn't closed down then count yourself lucky. And any general gay nights or bars will be 90% men.
There are three types of gay nights out: the “let’s vogue to Madonna and Cher” night out, the “did you know there’s a dark room here?” night out, and the “no, lady, I will not be your gay best friend” night out.